Do you consider yourself, if you're over fifty, as a sexy senior? Here's why you should. Yes, aging affects us in some odd ways. We grow hair in strange new places, find ourselves stiff in the morning (or maybe not stiff in the way we are used to), get fatigued early in the evening, but can’t sleep after 1am...
Yet, thanks to healthier lifestyles and the miracles of modern medicine, we are still active and, with any luck, attractive, well into retirement age. If you’re already into your fifties, sixties or even seventies, you’ll find it no surprise when we tell you that getting older doesn’t mean you lose interest in sex.
In fact, many sexy seniors find that they are even more interested in getting busy later in life. Perhaps it’s because we get more confident as we get older. After 30 or more years of sexual activity you’ve probably got at least the basics to a fine art, and you can safely expect much the same of a partner. There are no kids to worry about, financial stability is more likely, and most of us are comfortable in our bodies and not so stressed about our love handles. If all has gone as planned, we’re retired, or at least working shorter hours, so we have leisure time to enjoy. All these factors make an active sex life not only likely, but desirable.
Sexy Seniors: How to Get Some
So, why aren’t all these sexy seniors bed-hopping in every retirement village? For some, it’s the lack of a partner. Widowed, divorced or simply single men and women may find it harder to meet new people of their own age. Tinder isn’t exactly awash with ‘Sandton Sweetie, 68’ or ‘Houghton Hottie, 57’.
Joan Price, author of several books on sex in your later years, recommends self-pleasuring. Her 10 Tips for Hot Solo Sex after Sixty include getting a healthy amount of exercise, using a good quality lubricant, and investing in a couple of adult toys.
If you are checking out the possibilities at your local lawn bowling, it’ll keep you in shape for when your well-honed pick-up lines pan out. Even if you’re not planning on meeting anyone new, keeping your hand in is fun and good for you.
A bigger challenge lies in the hormonal changes that make it harder for both men and women to orgasm, or prevent erection. Again, the right lubricants can be a big help, as can toys. For the guys, there’s nothing wrong with getting a little help from a penis pump to get things started, using a cock ring to help you stay the distance, or trying a pill like Panalt or Maximor. Joan Price advises taking your time about foreplay.
An erotic massage or blissful bath, artfully lit with beautifully scented candles, is relaxing and reminds you to slow down and enjoy all the amazing sensations that make up sexy play. Don’t focus on getting to the orgasm. We know, now that we’re older, that the journey truly is more important than the destination.
Make it last, and make the most of it. When you take off the pressure to perform, there is so much fun to be had between the sheets. Overall, the challenges to getting your rocks off as a sexy senior are manageable, if we recognize that our bodies have changed, and adjust our activities accordingly. Gone are the nights of multiple sweaty bouts, but we can welcome the sweet afternoons of slower but far more sensual, mindful and ultimately more pleasurable sex for seniors.
