Some Anal Facts!
Because you have one, you already know the anus is a treasure trove of nerve endings. This makes it an erogenous zone par excellence, and it deserves more respect than people care to give. That's why we are mentioning it here.
Secondly: Butts are not gender-aware - everyone has one, and everyone’s is the same, so the treatment of everyone's is the same. Whether you’re with a guy, a girl, or a gender-bender, we can bet our bottom dollar you’ve got a bottom. Anal is gender-neutral!
We like to take a tip from Erica Moen: Lots of lube, go slow, and communicate. He is absolutely right.
Dr Lindsey Doe, of Sexplanations, suggests just resting the tip of your finger (or dildo, penis, etc.) up against the butt hole. Don’t push it, don’t rush it, just rest it there. Soon you’ll notice a puckering action as the anus gets used to the new idea.
Now it’s time to lube up, and lube up again, then make a gentle entry. Take your time and enjoy that tightness. If you’re the receiver, relax and breathe out as your partner eases in.
Now stop. Stay where you are and just enjoy it for a while. Then push a little more. Keep going, slowly, until you’ve penetrated (or been penetrated) as far as is comfortable. If you’re ready, try a little slow thrusting. Otherwise just stay still in this position, if that’s what works for you.
It’ll likely take two or three attempts before you feel more comfortable with anal play. The classic ‘spooning’ position is best for newbies. If it’s uncomfortable or hurts, stop a while. Always ensure the receiver is relaxed and comfortable.
You might need more lube at this point. We recommend a good silicone-based one for this: it lasts longer and gives a super smooth ride.
Anal-Sex Safety Tips
- Keep it covered! Gloves for hands, and condoms for toys and penis. This is for your own health and safety, so just do it!
- Keep it lubed! Not just for comfort but to prevent tiny tears in the skin.
- No going from butt to vagina, ever! The chances of bacteria getting into the vagina and causing really nasty infections are pretty high. So, even if you obeyed No.1, do not think it's OK to swing from back to front.
