Level 2 BDSM & Bondage Ideas and Tips
You have been trying out Domination and Submission, and you’ve enjoyed the baby steps of BDSM for Beginners. But now you want to get a little more serious - to step out of the restraints and take your BDSM fantasies to the next level. This is Intermediate BDSM.
Taking it to the next level
You might be one of those who likes to explore domination just a little and keep it in the bedroom; or one who wants to live this lifestyle outside the bedroom and entirely ‘own’ youir partner. It’s all about your comfort levels and what turns you both on. You have to investigate and set your own boundaries at mutually-agreed limits.
However, everyone dabbling in BDSM you should do a little research first. Safe BDSM is about pumping up the ecstasy, the orgasms and the desires whilst minimising the risk. So before you test some of the trickier tools, you need to know about safety. Even a bondage restraint or a whip can be dangerous if you don't know how to handle it.
Bondage + Intermediate BDSM
An excellent way to take your next steps into Intermediate BDSM is through bondage. You may have already tried light restraints, such as handcuffs or silk ties, but now you want it a little more serious. You can take control of your playmate by binding them by their hair - weave or braid rope through their luscious locks - to hold the head in whatever BDSM position you like. How about tying up your lucky lover with a rope harness? Let them feel the ropes on their skin, but let their bodies move relatively easily in spite of the restraints. You could position the ropes to stimulate the breasts or genitals whenever your lover moves so they're continually aware that they're there and you're the Dom.
Intermediate BDSM can be sensual, slow, and ultra-sexy. It’s all up to the players. You could open the door to more erotic adventures with a fully adjustable adult love swing. Swings are gravity-defying methods of keeping the Submissive open to the experience while the Dominant gets a sexy view of their Sub suspended in the air. This is suspension bondage without the need for major DIY ceiling fittings.
Are you looking for something a little more restrictive, where the Dominant has total control of the proceedings? A chastity cock cage will bring your man to his knees, while you do the rest!
A Little Pain for Your Pleasure
Establishing your pain threshold while it is still enjoyable is essential. When you’ve found your level you might want to consider some kinky toys. These bring in the pain and they say that pain (for some) is the greatest aphrodisiac. Start off with something classic, like a harder spanking, and see if it takes your partner to exciting new heights. A good (but not unkind) pinching, teasing, or added pressure with the tools might take them even higher.
Then there are our sexy clit clips for bondage play that are elegant and erotic at the same time. They are clit- and nipple-friendly gems that are held on by magnets gently squeezing the clitoris or nipple. They drive some ladies crazy during kink. Other options include paddles to tease and torment, or the wax from massage candles. These don't hurt too much and are a way to gradually introduce pain into your sex lives.
If you want to play without toys, you can use your teeth, pull their hair, slap a little and have some anal fun. BDSM does not always have to include sex toys.
Pace Yourself
Harder and faster doesn’t always mean better, even in the world of intermediate BDSM. You must be willing to go slowly - so slowly that not even your partner can stand it. Stir up the kind of hot energy you need for the erotic level you are after. The more intense strokes act as peaks to the experience, but remember too: the feather is sometimes mightier than the flogger; it’s all about how you use it.
We hope these tips helped you, and now a peek at some of our BDSM toys might help you on your new path to pleasure:
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