Sharing an erotic massage with your partner can be an incredibly intimate and amazing experience. It’s an opportunity to let your love and care transmit through your hands, as well as to really concentrate on your partner’s pleasure.
For some people, the intensity of this lengthy intimate contact is actually a bit scary. We’ve known a number of guys who are happy to massage their ladyfriend, but balk when it’s their turn to lie down and relax. If your man is having this kind of reaction, give him a chance to express what makes him nervous about it. Then suggest he give it just a few minutes, and if he feels really uncomfortable you’ll stop.
Matilda’s has a wide range of massage oils and creams, so take your time finding one that you’ll like the smell and feel of. It’s worth investing in a couple of different ‘flavours’ for different moods. We love the fragranced massage candles, that give off a warm scented oil perfect for erotic massage. Their soft light sets the scene, and the warmth of the oil helps to relax your partner even more. Light your candles a half hour or so before you intend to start the actual massage, to allow a pool of oil to melt and be ready for you.
Start at the shoulders, gently working your way down your partner’s back with a strong but gentle motion. If you feel knots, spend a little time on them but don’t focus on them. This is not a physio massage, but an erotic massage designed for pleasure. Alternate firm massage with soft, erotic stroking. Take it as slowly as you like. An erotic massage is only improved by a slow and pleasurable buildup.
Firm pressure on the buttocks can be very pleasurable, along with light stroking. Here, you might gently, ‘accidentally’, brush a hand against his testicles or, if he’s moved to lying on his back, his penis. By now it’s probably erect, or will soon be.
You can continue massaging all over his body, or begin to concentrate on his upper thighs, buttocks and genital area, still alternating between massage and stroking. If it’s feeling comfortable for both of you, you might move into more sexual caress at this point, and even start using your lips and tongue to enhance his pleasure. (The massage oils and candles are completely body safe and non-toxic.) This might naturally develop into lovemaking, or you might trade places so he can bring you to the same point of ecstacy you’ve so lovingly brought him to.
Remember, erotic massage doesn’t need to end in orgasm, or even in penetration. It’s an experience in itself, designed to bring you closer together and give you an opportunity to explore each other’s bodies. Take your time. Allow yourself to feel the full sensual awesomeness of the experience, and to share it with your partner.
